Living Foolishly

Living Foolishly.

Living Foolishly entails becoming aware of how we move about daily in play, a play and the play. Usually we aren’t aware of the archetype driving us, from the back of the stage of our mind, so to speak, in the play of our lives. We endlessly engage in the same conflicts within ourselves, and with other people, in the various daily a plays we have. We are constantly in play – ie commentary – with other people and this itself is informed by a play and the play.

To understand this better and to free ourselves up to live foolishly it helps to see that people can be understood to have these guiding component parts:

Archetype –   a defining characteristic which comprises our worldview and values. We probably operate with just one or two of these. Some examples include Healer, Warrior, Teacher, Pan (lust and pleasure). A person’s archetype can be seen to colour their world view, values and approach to life.

For example, your archetypes might be Thinker and Dreamer. You might tend to think about things a lot, and enjoy intellectual concepts. You may be fascinated by different world views and the hidden presumptions in our thoughts. You might often over-think problems rather than getting on with practical solutions. You might also be idealistic (the Dreamer). This can be exhilarating but often feel disappointing as the world is as it is, as it’s not what it should be.

 Mantra –       Our thoughts and actions are driven by our mantra. Our mantra is expressed in everything we say and do. It’s the invisible strap-line which explains all we say. To take a cliché example, if your mantra was ‘I want sex with you’  you might say “come back to my place for coffee.” You might start the evening with the comment, “nice shoes,” and continue with “we have such a great connection,” ending finally with “we’ll be more comfortable out of all these clothes.” It’s all derivative of the mantra, I want sex with you. It’s what all of those phrases really mean.

To take another example, someones  mantra is “Let’s get organised.” This manifests in many ways. He asks, “what time are you arriving?”; “did you check the route on the map?”; he comments, “you’d have thought the vicar would have sorted out his notes before the service”; he advises, “always have in the car with you the car manual, some spare water and a good size rag – you never know when you might need them.” The examples express his mantra – the underlying driving thought – “let’s get organised.”

It’s fun identifying what someone’s mantra is. There’s a mental click which makes sense of what they’re doing and saying. Here are some examples of mantra that I’ve come across: I’m a victim; I’m the victim; I’m better than you; I’m the best; I’m not stupid; let’s get organised; I’m no one’s fool. The list is endless.

Script – We are each obsessed by a limited number of themes or subjects. These “scripts” are endlessly repetitive. A person might have around five. They commonly revolve around work, family, hobbies, interests but can be about anything at all. It could be Hip Hop, cars, golf, a daughter, the government’s faults.

We come alive when we can get on script. We bring conversations round to the script. In conversation we wait our turn to get back to our scripts. It is astonishing to notice how people impose their own scripts on conversation.

Becoming aware of how these  components drive us unconsciously frees us up to have more choice. We can chose to play life in another way, with more freedom. This is living Foolishly. All of the workshops provide tools and skills to become aware of these things.